Fitness means more than you think

What comes to mind when you think of fitness? It means so many different things to so many different people. But fitness to me is really clear. I need both my mind and my body to be well and intact in order to feel fit. And when one is out of wack, the other suffers.

How many people can actually say that they are fully fit 100% of the time? Please, those of you who can, stand up and tell the rest of us how to do it. Because, I know for a fact, that there is always something coming, creeping, jumping, leaping into your peripheral vision that will make you stutter just a little bit mentally. Something that will disturb your peace, something that will disturb your brick built wall that usually protects your mind from nonsense, something that will try and destroy your happiness even if its for just 3 minutes out of your day. There’s always something out of our control that can touch us and make our minds hiccup. In order to handle such disturbances and hiccups, we need to develop mental fitness. We have to have a coping mechanism that will help us to get back on track. Whether that coping mechanism involves meditation, prayer, a silent moment or daily physical exercise. What ever is needed to keep your mental fitness in tack is what should be used. Because believe it or not, your mental fitness will affect everything else.

Fitness is more than just physical fitness. When I talk about my slogan, “Curly hair, life and fitness…I’m talking about my total fitness, including my mental fitness. Up until recently, my mental fitness was not were it needed to be. Even though my physical fitness falls into the whole makeup of my whole mental fitness as well, my mental fitness more so consisted of who valued me, how they valued me, and how I felt they should value me. I’m at a point in my life right now at the age of 52, that I no longer care who values me because I have come to a harsh reality that people value what they can get from you. People value how much you can do for them. And when you no longer serve their purpose, you become indispensable.

Many may think that I am just talking about male and female relationships, but I’m not. It can be relationships with your girlfriends, or family members. It can be relationships with co-workers. The value that you put on how people should treat you, affects your mental fitness. Once you let that load of needing people to value you go, once you start living your life in the whole aspect of saying, “I’m in this by myself” and no one owes me anything. My success depends on me. And if others come into your life and they can enhance your success then great. If they cannot, then you need to step over their bodies and keep it moving, because they will be nothing but a roadblock to everything you have going on.

Those roadblocks are sometimes hard to step over because it is easier said than done to get rid of relationships that hinder your progress. Some of these people are your co-workers but how do you get rid of them? You can’t just quit your job. Some of these people are family members, but you can’t divorce people who are related to you. Some of these people may be in your inner circle. So what are you going to do? Go find a whole new circle???!!!….That seems a bit extreme. No….In order to have mental fitness, you must mentally weed these people out and put them in compartments that they need to be in. Deal with them accordingly and make your moves. That’s all.

Mental Fitness to me is the ability to see things as they are and still continue on your journey without hinderance of anyone’s blockage. Not allowing people or occurrences to affect your inner peace. The ability to smile through the garbage and fend of the demons who are fighting their way into your personal space. Not everyone has a reason, a season or a time when they enter your life. Sometimes people fall into your life, not because of anything going on with you. It’s because their circulation around the Sun so happened to have stopped in your space, nothing to do with you. No reason, no season and definitely not a time. They are just there occupying unnecessary space. So just block them out and begin your mental fitness regime.

Master Cosmetologist, Health and Beauty consultant, author. Just doing all the things I have a passion about, unapologetically, boldly and with a little splash of love.


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